{"id":371,"date":"2014-07-03T13:19:21","date_gmt":"2014-07-03T17:19:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beydeckard.com\/blog\/?p=371"},"modified":"2014-07-03T14:02:00","modified_gmt":"2014-07-03T18:02:00","slug":"sex-sex-sexy-sex-sex-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beydeckard.com\/blog\/sex-sex-sexy-sex-sex-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex sex sexy sex sex sex"},"content":{"rendered":"

In starting this blog, I've been worried (ok, maybe not worried... I don't worry about a lot) about oversharing<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It's one thing to read about about fucking. It's another thing to read about an author fucking. Right?<\/p>\n

See, there's a difference between fiction and reality, and I never know where that line is in terms of what folks want to hear from me. Notice how when people write reviews of really hardcore erotica books, they rarely ever mention the sex except to say whether it was hot or not? You don't generally\u00a0get something like \"omg, I almost came when Leo started fisting Guiseppe\" etc. \u00a0At least not that I've seen.<\/p>\n

All this is on my mind because in\u00a0trying to come up with things to say on my blog, I keep coming back to sex. I have a lot to write about when it comes to sex, and it's not explicit or anything. It's just fun stuff... but do you want to hear it?<\/p>\n

If you don't... just skip this entry.<\/p>\n

If you do, by all means, come right in.<\/p>\n

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For instance, I was looking through old journal entries the other night, and I came across something that made me\u00a0super nostalgic.\u00a0Do you know what my friends gave me for my twenty-sixth birthday? An orgy in a sleazy pay-by-the-hour motel room with mirrors on the walls.<\/p>\n

This is part of the entry:<\/p>\n

[The club]\u00a0was crowded with tons of happy voices and pretty faces. All that alcoholic human vigour, that sweet crackling energy I yearn for was flowing. Ride the current. <\/em>
\nThe goal I had stated to Druid the previous day was to jump as many people as possible - and see if I could get an incestuous orgy going. *beams* That was what I wanted for my birthday.<\/em><\/p>\n

[...]<\/em><\/p>\n

There was a boy there that I had heard of from my brother. They had worked together and supposedly this boy was lusting after him. Young, sweet - and a fan-fucking-tastic kisser. Totally unexpected, a nice surprise. Contrary to popular belief, I do indeed like surprises.<\/em><\/p>\n

I had Tanthalas on one arm, Spike on another, the beautiful and sexy Miss Minx on yet another, and the above mentioned boy - lots of arms that night.<\/em><\/p>\n

No I wasn't drunk - maybe the first flutters of tipsy, but not anywhere near drunk. More like very sober and very alive.<\/em><\/p>\n

[...]<\/em><\/p>\n

Miss Minx's panties were down to her ankles in the backseat as we drove to the motel and Spike nearly dislocated his shoulder trying to get his hand down my pants. It's a wonder we weren't stopped by the cops. *laughs* How would we have explained\u00a0why we were all in various stages of undress? And the car blatantly smelled of sex...\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

See. Not explicit. But is it interesting<\/em>? Is it oversharing<\/em>?<\/p>\n

How is it relevant to my writing? <\/em><\/p>\n

Well, a lot of how I came\u00a0to start writing the way I do is based on personal experience as well as my general attitude towards sex: relaxed, varied, plentiful,\u00a0and\u00a0open-minded. The first time\u00a0I read a \"this M\/M erotica has girly bits in it\" warning in a review about\u00a0Caged<\/a>, my eyebrows shot up. I tend to forget that not everyone shares my tastes.<\/p>\n

So do I write about my past conquests? Do I write about being a switch? Do I write about\u00a0my complicated\u00a0relationship with pain? Do I write about my many (many) kinks? Do I write about my personal experiences... or do I couch it all in fiction and let you guess which parts are based on reality?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In starting this blog, I’ve been worried (ok, maybe not worried… I don’t worry about a lot) about oversharing. It’s one thing to read about about fucking. It’s another thing to read about an author fucking. Right? See, there’s a difference between fiction and reality, and I never know where that line is in terms of what folks want to hear from me. Notice how when people write reviews of really hardcore erotica books, they rarely ever mention the sex except to say whether it was hot or not? You don’t generally\u00a0get something like “omg, I almost came when Leo … <\/p>\n

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